带你走进男士爱情片厂牌《MEN AT PLAY》的台前幕后
Men At Play 是一家欧洲的男士爱情片厂牌，之前总部在伦敦，现在是西班牙。
Men At Play知名的原因是他很好地聚焦在一个特定需求的市场。
在Cybersocket获得2017年最佳欧洲Best European Site，Best Niche Site和Best Sex Scene3项奖
在15年前的2002年的伦敦，一对已婚的同志为在就职平面公司之外赚点零花钱，用一个口袋数码摄像机为西装爱好者拍摄视频，这便是Men At Play这个厂牌的前身。
目前在Men At Play也是常出现的主角之一
P: Do you feel a little self-conscious when you or you and your husband walking on the street? Do you mind fans recognize you, take pictures, and give them your autograph?
T: It's funny actually as people are too shy to come up to me on the street. They would turn around and whisper "omg, that's him". My husband notices it more than me. Most of the times, it happens in the gym or hotel just when I least expect it. For example, when I go to shoot in Madrid, one of the waiters there is a big fan, and the first time he saw me he was "oh my god, are you Theo Ford". It was eight in morning. I was not showered, or picture-ready at all.
Sometimes, I do have people telling me afterwards that they saw me on the street, and ask if next time they can come up to me. I was at Heaven last night, and in the queue to get in there was a boy from China, he turned around, and looked at me, and asked if I was Theo Ford. I said Yes, and he said he was a big fan. I was with my husband and he wanted to take a picture, it was sweet. I just do porn. It's not like I'm a Hollywood actor. I do have fans, but I am not bothered by people on the street recognizing me. It's always pleasant.
加拿大28群 ，Usually, people are really shy, because when you do porn, you are being perceived as this sexual beacon of empowerment, which might intimidate some. So they will love you on Twitter, but when seeing you on street, they will be like "omg omg omg".
其实很多时候大家蛮害羞的，特别是当你做成人电影的时候，你很容易让人有害羞的感觉。所以大家会社交媒体上不害羞地粉你，但在大街上看到你，就不会这样，只会在心里嘀咕“ OMG OMG OMG”。
I think it's great that the internet helps people to open themselves and live the life they would like to. You have to be careful to get stuck behind your computer or your phone. But this does help to build a certain image and to market yourself, especially when your image is a product to sell.
And my life on Twitter is pretty open. Most are personal things. I never post sexually explicit content. It's just me, my family will also find it cute to look at it as I talk about my husband, my life, and what I do.
Of course, there are links to my movies to promote, that's the sexual part. But this is the only sexual part of my Twitter, it's my work. My sexual life, as a person, is private. That's actually the only thing that can still be private in my life. So I would like to keep it that way. Also because I am married, I want to protect it. I also want people do realize that my life as a married man, is totally different and separate from my life as an actor.
P: So yourself as an actor, and we have got a few other interesting terms here, such as porn star and performer, what do you think of these three, and which one of them do you identify more with?
T: I don't perform on stage or night clubs, so I am not a performer. In the scenes, you know it is a movie, there are people filming, we are acting. Some of the things I do are not me, even if we have a dialogue or a plot. For example, for Men.com, I got to play quite a few different characters in my scenes, which is actually exciting.
A lot of people say that I am not an actor, that I am just selling my dick online. Yes of course, I am not quoting Shakespeare in my work, but it is still acting, since I do not do things I would in my own life.
There are porn actors, and porn stars. Nowadays, you see some people who have made one scene call themselves porn stars. I have made nearly 100 movies, and I am one of the top 30 (27th) most searched actors. Maybe at one point, when you have enough experience, you can legitimately call yourself a porn star. Porn star is still a little bit overrated term for myself.
P: So for people like Paddy Brian, do you think they can be called as porn stars?
T: Yes of course. You see the way they work is purely professional. Paddy is one of these professionals, and he is a great guy. There are a lot of them, and you can definitely tell the ones who are stars and professionals, and the ones who do it because they just don't know what else to do. there's a very big difference.
Paddy made a huge name for himself, and his name will appear in 90% of the times when talking about porn, especially in the UK. And in the Top 30, I am ranked a little bit below him. I always feel so honored. It's nice and surprising to find out the way you see yourself is never as good as the way others see you.
When you are in porn, you are exposed both physically and emotionally. Compared to 20 years ago, it's much easier to talk to porn actors these days by social media. Now the game has changed completely, there is a lot more guys. Social media does allow to find more talent, and great talents, but also allows people who are not or should not be in porn.
P: Have you ever come across a situation where you have to work with someone who you are not attracted to? How do you still maintain the chemistry on the camera?
T: Well again, because it is acting. I make sure that I can see myself doing that scene with the person. I have said No in the past. But once you work with a big studio, they usually cast great guys, so it is extremely rare to come across these kind of situations.
Maybe once in a while, they will let you to work with a guy that you don't really like, but usually they are pretty great. It happens more with small studios. Once I was told one hour before filming, that the guy I was supposed to shoot with could not make it and it would be with another guy. I saw the picture, and I was not happy. I did not say anything but to be honest, if they had showed me before, I would have said No. Afterwards, I was angry at them because they had put me in a situation where I had to do something that I was not OK with.
P: Was that one of the comments you made online which was related to one of the very unprofessional experiences?
T: Yes. However, these days, when you work with big studios, such as Men.com. It is just amazing and they will do everything for you. They make sure you are fed, stay in a good hotel, and have your flights and cab. Some other studios don't even give you a drink on set.
P: Do you guys also need to be tested really often to keep working in this industry, given the fact that you have to have sex with quite a few guys?
T: I have shot some bareback scenes, but there are just a handful of them. Even if you only shoot safe sex, there is always a risk. So to make sure that I am not in a position where I can get something or transmit anything, I get tested every month.
It's for my own health, and peace of mind. It's also important to respect your co-workers, and my husband of course. If I catch something on set, I can get treated, it's fine. But it is more a matter of knowing yourself and making sure that you are being safe. Also it is about respect, for the person you are going to have close physical intimacy with.
P: So how long does it normally take for you to get ready for a scene. I heard sometimes, a scene that lasts 20 minutes, needs to take hours to film?
T: Usually a scene would be around 20 to 30 minutes, and normally would take between one hour to 15 hours to shoot. A couple of times, I have scenes shoot for 11 or 12 hours in one day. It was horrible.
P: Wow, in one day, how to you keep that up all the time?
T: It was very difficult. At the end, I was like I am done. I just wanted to go back to my hotel. It wasn't fun at all. Thankfully the director got fired this year, so I am glad.
P: Do you feel a little bit strange to have sex in front of cameras, as you need to be aware of the angles and everything. Can you still enjoy bits, or do you have to treat it just as work, and make sure all good shots are captured?
T: It is a bit of both. You have to make sure you are or you show that you are enjoying yourself. At the same time, you need to make sure you open your body up to the camera. It's practice. The more you shoot, the more you know about the positioning and look natural as well. So it is very important to know how to work with cameras.
P: Do you have to stop in the middle sometimes, just for the photographer to get a good picture?
T: Usually the pictures are done first. So you do all the positons with the picture, and you know what positons you can do and you do them. It's actually good as you will know in the actual filming, what positons come after so the transitions can be more natural. And it is actually quite funny to see afterwards how you do different transitions from this to that. Some studios do the pictures during the filming, but it is not the best way.
P: And it is quite cool that you can practice all different positions with your husband :P
T: It's funny because I never try these positions with my husband as it is always very natural. That's why I always say I don't have sex with my husband, I make love to him. It's not the same dynamic. It's the emotions. Sometimes, it can last an hour, sometimes it lasts 10 minutes. And that's the great thing as it is the passion and the intimacy.
P: Do you feel a little bit awkward or strange if your husband sees your work?
T: Well, obviously, he has seen me and I have nothing to be ashamed of. I know that he has seen all the trailers for my movies. I wouldn't watch them with him. It is work, I always keep it that way as much as possible. Sometimes, he is like, oh you look like you are really enjoying yourself. I am like it is just work. Maybe it looks great and we had fun and laughed a lot. But it is still just work, that's it.
And in the evening, I go home to my husband.
P: It is actually such an amazing thing that you have someone to go back to every evening.
T: It is and it does bring some balance. I guess I was missing that before meeting him. I did not have any balance; it was all work.
P: A lot of my friends are using all kinds of dating apps. They meet people like having fast food, and they complain that it is so hard to find a decent boyfriend. Do you think people should really get to know each other before jumping into beds?
T: Dating apps is good and bad. It has helped a lot of people to come out and meet other guys without actually having to go to a gay bar. It is easier, a lot of people do use it as a tool to do what you have said.
It's important to know what exactly you want. It's very easy to complain. If you just want to hook-ups, great. If you want to find a boyfriend, maybe try to look deeper. Everyone, even if a person says he only wants sex, still wants a boyfriend and be in love.
If you are open to meeting someone and actually open for relationships to other people. You will always have the possibility of finding a boyfriend. Sometimes it takes a bit more work, because you are shy or socially awkward, or their appearances don't fit into the stereotypes of a perfect gay guy. But whatever you look like, there is always someone who will find you attractive. And there is always people who will find you ugly and unattractive, even with me.
A lot of the guys don't know what they want. They say they want boyfriends, but at the same time, they want to have sex with lots of other guys. So I think it is a matter of really looking inside you and your own feelings, and then you can actually manage to do what you are meant to do.
You know there are also some guys, they look so cute, and you will be like, omg, I wanna talk to him. And it's funny as it was how I met my first boyfriend.
I just turned 18 in Dublin, and I was seeing a couple of friends. I walked up to him and said hi, and that was it. I literally interrupted him as he was with a friend. I was 18 and he was 34, so he was a not a boy anymore.
P: Have you watched the TV series Queer as Folk? It was kind of like how Justin and Bryan were first met.
T: Bryan was a jerk in the series, while the guy I met was the kindest person I could ever meet and he is still a friend. It's always the same because you have to take a chance in life. Even for porn, it was a huge chance and risk I decided to do it. And I feel like it is a good thing, which I also ended up meeting my husband.
P: Wow, how come you meet your husband through porn?
T: Because of porn, I was filming in Los Angeles. I met him as we have friends in common. He is an underwear model as well as a celebrity hairstylist. He doesn't do porn though lots of studios have invited him for that.
P: Ah, so you guys are in totally different industries.
T: I wanna make sure that he has his own life and career as well. I don't want to feel like we have to compare ourselves. I think we have to compliment and add to each other, rather than share everything. We need to bring different things into the relationship. Your work, and your career is a big thing. I love the fact that he does things I cannot do. It's pretty amazing you can have that.
P: How long were you single before meeting your husband?
T: I was never much single. I always go from one relationship to another. I hate being single. Every time I break up with someone, I always feel like I want to be single. And next week, I will find a guy who I really really like and look great, and here we go again.
When I met Shawn, I was not expecting to meet anyone. I was not looking for boyfriend. But when I met him, I kept him.
P: Looks like you guys have the perfect gay couple life: attractive, good career, and a cute dog. Maybe some day to have a baby as well. And I would love to adopt a cute mixed baby, such as Asian and European.
T: And I will have an Asian baby.
Theo Ford(右)和老公Shawn de Rodez
P: Do you feel like here in Europe, Asians are not as popular as they are in some other places. The popular ones here, are either the super girly ones, or the ones who are like very stocky and muscular. The ones in between, sometimes, do not seem to be that popular.
T: In Europe in general, Asian guys are not that popular. But London is different as it is a very international and diverse city. You have lots of inter-racial couples. That's what I like about it. My husband and I, we are biracial as well. It's amazing to share different cultures and I would love to have babies with him. There is actually a technology now that you can put three people's DNAs.
I would love to have Shawn get pregnant, lol. As a gay guy, you have to work for it (having babies) and decide. It seems more like a mission rather than something that just happens naturally. We will definitely have kids, and hopefully in 3 or 4 years. Depending on where we live and what we do, preferably before I am 35. I want to be a young dad.
P: A lot of the Chinese guys have to live in the closet because of the social culture and family pressure. It is hard to come out, and in order to do that, I think we have to be financially well-off, and totally being able to afford a stable life, and surrogate babies if we want to.
T: I have lots of Chines friends who are more or less out. It's a shame because sexuality is something so natural, and there is nothing more to change it. Homosexuality has been around for millenniums, as well as with the Greeks, the Romans, and the Egyptians. So it is not something happened with the internet or new technologies. It is something that exists in the animal kingdom as well. We have thousands of different species that have homosexual relationships. It is natural and in nature, though it is obviously cultural and religious too.
When you do porn, and you are so out sexually. It is kind of amazing to show that you can be empowered by your sexuality, regardless you are gay or straight. But you can actually own your sexuality and be proud of it, being able to decide what you want to do.
It is amazing when some of my fans from China, even on Twitter. They tweeted and telling me they are a big fan. And telling me they feel happy to see that I can be happy and being gay; even being in porn and happily married to another man.
I am happy by myself. It kind of makes me happy that I can show others that I can live a healthy life even I am gay. We have to educate people to tell them that it is actually great to be gay. It is actually even maybe more fun and exciting. Society cannot tell you that you have to be married if you are 30.
When you are gay. You don't have that. Imagine that you are a lesbian woman. You don't have a society that tells you that you have to have a kid by 30. I love the fact that you are outside the society and the rules. You can even create your own rules. I am the first generation of homosexuals that can get married. And it is amazing to be a pioneer.
P: Did you guys get married here or in America?
T: We got married in Beverly Hills, LA, where my husband is from. I got his name tattooed on my fingers two weeks ago for our 8-month wedding anniversary. He got mine on his too.
When we got married and repeated the vows, it is pretty crazy. Sometimes when I see movies or TV shows that have the same scene. I feel a bit emotional.
Not every day is easy as we also have fights. We are different people. Sometimes it is difficult to adapt and we got married only after 3 weeks of knowing each other. We met on the 17th of March on St. Patrick's day. It is really cool because I am Irish and this is a national holiday. On the 8th of April, we got married. That was pretty quick and a lot of people thought it was a fake wedding. It's funny because people still talk like that. If you see us, all the time, we hold hands every where we go.
P: That's so sweet and romantic, even just to have someone to hold hands together wherever you go.
Sometimes, you were not expected to be romantic and it just happened. And I think we all have that kind of romanticism in us. So you really have to open and dig out.
P: Indeed, and I have done some very romantic things for my exes in the past. When you look back, you will actually be amazed at how and when you come up with these kind of ideas.
T: Sometimes it is like taking a risk to do something like that. When I met my husband, it was my last night in LA. I needed to fly to New York the next morning. And I asked him if he wanted to come with me. He was like I don't know and as it was literally the next day, the plan tickets were so expensive. He couldn't afford it. I told him not to worry, and just take a day off to make sure he is free.
I got his tickets. The next day he came with me to New York for 3 days. Later he had to go back to LA to work. So our first date started in LA, and went on to New York, and lasted for 4 days in two different cities. It is also the stories that make the relationship special. I like that and you cannot make that up.
P: So who proposed? Is it yours or his idea?
T: It was a sunny Easter Sunday, and we spent the day with friends. At dinner, he was like I don't want to live another day without you. I want to get married. And I was like are you sure. It's funny because I said yes. But it was more like are you sure? And he was like yeah. OK let's do it. I was a bit crazy as well. It was also a way to make a point that we want to prove to each other that we really want to be together.
P: Dating these days seem so much more complicated as we need to consider so many things; and always, there are so many choices, such as omg, he is cute, but he doesn't have a great career. We tend to lose the guts of just doing it, simply being together.
P: Some people these days even use plastic surgeries to make themselves fit into certain standards, such as high cheek bones, skinny faces. What do you think about these?
T: If it really helps you to make yourself feel better in your skin, do it. If it is just a replacement for something you are not getting in life, such as self-esteem and respect, that can be very dangerous. That's why there is actually higher percentage of suicides among people who take plastic surgeries because they think going through certain body changes will make them happier, but you have to be happy first.
P: And you need to feel so careful and delicate when having sex with these people (Just kidding, oops, don't break my nose or lip).
T: Sometimes, you just have to make sure you are the best you can be. It never a matter being perfect or being exactly what people want you to be in this industry. And this actually apply for everything in life. That's actually why my name Theo come from for porn. It means the descendant of a human being into a god-like state. The idea is, every day, you become better.
P: It's the perfect relationship you can have. To help each other become better versions. It kind of sucks that most of guys are seeking temporary romances and chemistries.
T: Getting married so quickly might seem crazy but it has actually made us better and stronger. Because we are married, we have to stay together and make an effort to really be together to make each other happy. So it was actually really great to get married so quickly before we get tired of each other. Even if at some point, it really turns out to be a huge mistake, you can always get a divorce. In my head, if I don't give this the best chance possible, I never know what my life can be with him.
We get engaged on Sunday and I told my mon. We picked the rings on Monday. On the Wed we got married. So my Facebook status, changed from being in a relationship, to engaged, and to married in like 4 days. People were like what happened?
P: People might just think it is for post April Fool's Day, lol
T: It was actually just in April and just after that. I like the idea of just making the biggest effort. If you don't risk, you don't get anything.
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